I have said to him more than once that I dont know who I am anymore. When he does help out he acts like invented electricity. If you two never go out anywhere together, then I would say that he's using you for sex (or hopes to soon). I gained weight after the birth of my child, I admit. He still waits for my direction and Ive stopped doing all I did because he wont put any responsibility onto himself. The money he gets will be spent and gone. It had an article about trauma recovery that said basically you are healed when you can review the trauma in a non emotional way. Im glad its over for you. Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity, Most of the Time My Husband Doesnt Want to do Sh*t, No Such Thing As TMI The Importance of Full Disclosure After You Have Had an Affair, Affair Recovery Moving On After Infidelity, Taking Inventory: A New Approach to the New Year & A Betrayed Spouses Bill of Rights, Follow our journey as we save our marriage after an emotional affair, Terms of Service/Privacy Policy/Affiliate Disclosure. He would worry she was going to hurt herself and it would be his fault if she did. I also remember a few years ago my husband saying he would honor his boring commitment. Guess The Turd does more interesting things like eat sushi, try to look phat and fresh, and try to be a hipster. My husbands job was mainly to just show up and participate. What this means for me is If he wants to pick an argument or indulge in another round of self pity, I dont have to join in. I guess if Ive found any silver lining in my situation it has been establishing a value of self worth that cannot be skewed by anyone and as was said before no more blind faith. He shaves maybe once a week, at most. My husband did, I did, my affair partner did, my husbands affair partner did, every body who ever cheated did, lol. Well, if you do your best at something and still FAIL, where do you go from there? It was all about ME and what I should or shouldnt do, NOT about him and the nasty tramp he was running around with, protecting, putting on a pedestal, Read Also: Why Husband Blames Me For Everything: The Truth Behind Relationship Arguments. Yes, it SUCKS the big one and I struggle to deal with the profound disappointment, frustration and anger towards him and I dont like myself anymore because Ive lost respect for him and Im irritable all the time. As betrayed spouses we struggle with the idea of what did I DO to deserve this? Well, the truth is we did NOTHING. He did help out by having someone come in once a week and do the heavier cleaning. If youre always demanding his attention, hell likely start to feel suffocated. He helps make meals or we dont eat. And the selfish person cheating is fooling themselves and their affair partner to justify what they are doing. 1. Not exactly good party talk! I will NEVER go through this again. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to assist you. 8. There has to be a shift in thinking and approach here. or situations/content involving minors, Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. If theres one thing that does not exist in a long-term marriage its that feeling of newness. 2010-2019 Emotional Affair Journey. I wonder at times how my h felt when he looked at himself in the mirror while his eyes mind was battling with his heart and soul. If anyone thinks they were lured, or tricked, or coerced, or anything else into cheating on your spouse then there is an issue. Everyone makes mistakes, and your husband is no exception. I feel none of it was appreciated and he has a sense of entitlement. Now I am thinking of calling it quitsnever thought I would feel this way..worked so hard to keep my marriage together.but Ive been at this now for 4 years and still not sure if one day he is going to come home and say he is leaving. Best wishes Rachelyou have won what is most important to you!!! I found a good website on CPTSD, called Strength to Heal, I think. But its good to know that Im not alone in feeling this way. I value your opinion so I really appreciate your comments. However, some people are just habitually negative and don't understand how miserable they are making themselves as well as the . This is bonding time. he doesnt want things to improve. So Im so happy for you that you have your children. by Christy Cox for Divorced Moms. If you are struggling to find a boyfriend OR can't get quality men to commit to you then read this post to find out why. This can be difficult to navigate, but dont worry were here to help! Its so frustrating and can make you feel really lonely. When hes wrinkly, shriveled, and losing his faculties he will know in his heart and probably mind too that he caused destruction. This is especially true if he notices other women and gives you compliments less often. My husband I really never really used to go anywhere much due to work so we never really thought a time share would benefit us. It was his stress and depression and need for escape. I dont really think badly of my husband. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules. That said, anyone who knows my husband and I would say that HE is the boring one; ie, wants to stay home, etc. Apparently its not caused by lack of love at all, but probably more likely due to the lack of newness, adventure and passion. Dear sister, yes, these feelings haunt me daily. A Crappy Vacation Told Me My Marriage Was Really Over. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we have a 8 week old daughter together. This blog post will discuss the ten most common reasons why your spouse might not want to spend time with you and what you can do about it. John I have a few family members who purchased time shares here many years ago. He wont go anywhere! If anything, it is a great opportunity to spend quality time with single friends. The lack of attention you are receiving from your husband could possible be due to his attraction to someone else. For ME, the absolute foundation of monogamy is my commitment to that very principle. Samantha Rodman Whiten September 28, 2018. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Yup, I no longer want all the responsibility of doing it all, anymore. I need to get that back, John and chiff, I need to start feeling good about myself again. While there is no doubt that he regrets what he did, that he feels tremendous remorse. Don't suppress your desire and build up resentment. Then I feel hurt when he doesnt. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Now he helps make the bed every morning or it doesnt get made. he said if she was going to be such a jerk, she didnt need to come over here, or he didnt need to ever be around her, blah blah blah. I brought it up in marriage counseling and the counselor said if he was bored it was because he was boring. Time for ME to start setting the bar for my OWN self-esteem and not basing it on HIS assessment of me. Another option is speaking to him about events that he would prefer you attend with a friend. Remember what the marriage vows say? Over time I discovered that her POSOM didnt spend a dime on herexcept for cheap hotel rooms. Do you often think, my husband doesn t like spending time with my family and me? Of course that was a trigger for me, and I told him that it was nice that he was focusing on how the whole thing made HIM feel, and totally ignored how gut wrenching it was for ME as she sat there describing a college boyfriend who cheated on her, and went on at length about how I have no idea the pain, the agony, the etc etcof being cheated on. What should I do if my husband never wants to do anything with me? My husband retired last year and although he has time to do things, he does nothing. When you think about it, it makes sense. I was never bored. I vent ONLY to my bff, who knows our story and my level of commitment to this relationship. It's an example of his own insecurity and need to control you. It does not matter to whom you are referring.). " If dat new guy don't stop follin wit ma girl, ahm gon put a gree gree on him ." Im exhausted and burned out. Of course, you work. If that something is lacking so severely than they would simply LEAVE. That made it interesting to them I suppose. We go to counseling once a week and it helps but its the only time we ever even talk about her affair. I used to have a higher regard for my wedding vows but these scars will unfortunately stay with me and so be it. Whether she values what she has or not I know her friends and coworkers are jealous when they stair at me like a piece of meat-haha. If friends tend to be the parents of our kids teammates, school friends, etc. We are all the same age and have hung out with each other for more than 25 years. Rachel, my prayers are with you, Im so relieved your children are with you,. My husband actually says he has a NEW and DEEPER appreciation of not only me and our marriage, but our family as well. He will not permit me to go out with friends or anywhere even the grocery store without his being with me. Yes, you guessed ittheir husbands. I am with him 24/7 365 and at 65 I have become his parent. Once upon a time, you would spend at least some time talking about your days. I really did want out but didnt see a way. Eg, unfortunately with my h cousin it, she thought it was and when it looked like she could use it she threw herself at him like a bitch on heat. I cant help but ask myself is it worth it? I dont know what to do any,more. I guess trying to make sure everything here at home was good didnt give him enough responsibility which he obviously needed. I know now that the only sure thing in this world I can depend on is myself. But I know one thing I wont go through this again kids or not Im better than that and dont deserve it. That was still intact. I am exhausted and depressed most of the time. Lol. But you already know that, lol. When we first got together I was 16 and I definitely had a higher sex drive back then, as most 16 year olds probably do. It's a good way to keep a relationship alive. he had an emotional affair a few years ago and I have had a hard time forgiving him but I do not let him know this. We saw therapists through the years but nothing changed. You are so VERY right. Maybe he just shows his affection in other ways? (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. That too is wrong. Guess thats why she cant keep a man or have a real relationship. Speak with your doctor about whether you even have anything to disclose at this point. 3. Saturday night we met up with two other couples who we consider to be some of our closest friends. . Now shes pregnant (its mine) and I dont really have a choice. My son is starting his divorce proceedings this week and he has a 3 year old son. As you say, freedom to do what you want, and in my husband's case, no mood swings, he is always just even tempered. And that goes right to the heart of why so very few people actually DO leave. I hate how uncomfortable and insecure this makes me feel in our marriage. What are your thoughts on Johnsons idea that the two main factors that keep us monogamous are passion and principles? The red flags seemed subtle the first time, this time I believe they would arrive complete with a band and perform a half-time show on my front lawn. Some people are able to deal with reaching those limits in a healthy way (seeking help, being honest, or even leaving) and others implode. An issue my husband never wants to do anything with me could also mean that hes an introvert and he just needs some time alone to recharge. Post-affair, I am uncomfortably aware that making mountains out of molehills can be a dangerous self-fulfilling prophecy. They didnt really do anything or go anywhere special together and to the casual observer, certainly not anything or anywhere exciting. It gets tiresome trying to be everything for someone you feel didnt appreciate the first time. If you have been in this situation you know that this will also include mental, sexual, and many other types of abuse as well. This is a big red flag, and my advice is to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline and discuss this with someone there because. Like go to the grocery store, go to the pool, go to sport practice, go anywhere! It was certainly different from our normal family life. 1. All through his fog. I have even spoken with his dr. Who says she doesnt see it yet he has all the signs. This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. Others blame their spouse ONLY. Talking to one other and making an effort is key to a long-lasting relationship. PS. Prayers for peace for you. or situations/content involving minors. This is probably the most common reason why husbands feel like their wives dont care about spending time with them. And really peace for your ex too. But before you jump to conclusions, there are a few other possible explanations for why your husband doesnt want to spend time with you. It can be a major weakness to a marriage. These are the games she played, along with you promised me thus, you promised me that, boo hoo. I do absolutley everything on my own. That's as good a moment as any to assess your connections and consider if your friends are just busy, or if they're brushing you off for another reason. It makes me sick the lengths she went to, and I truly believe it was her manipulation, making him feel guilty for him being home with his family. For nearly twenty five years before the affair he had a very traditional marriage, by both of our choices. That obviously will take a while. Suggest ways to wind down together after a long day instead of just vegging out in front of the TV. Go out and start doing things you want to do. This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person. You might not see it, but your relatives can sometimes be quite overwhelming, especially if theyre always around. I have lost a lot of weight and am going to the gym but my husband cuts that down. What about commitment as a daily choice? Refusal to go for walks could be signs of an underlying behavioral issue. Then when I think about how unappreciative and selfish her betrayal was in the first place I feel like fool for stretching myself so thin when I feel like she should be kissing MY ass. Routine can also lead to emotional isolation in marriage. Weve been married 42 years. Its essential to show interest in the things your spouse enjoys, even if you dont share the same enthusiasm. our relationship is so confusing. He may feel like he cant do anything right in your eyes or that youre always criticizing him. He has let his hair grow long and messy and refuses to get a haircut. What to do if my husband doesn t want to spend time with me? You absolutely tell it like it is. It runs in his family and he has suffered with it and sleep disorder for years. Doug, Linda, anyone elseone topic I would love to see discussed: how do you handle ti when the topic of affairs comes up in discussion with friends, etc. Too painful and once I would start I wouldnt know where to stop! I handled it FAR better than he did, and I think I should be the one ranting and raving over how bad it made me feel. Say what you will, but there's often quite a bit of truth to jokes. Does that excuse me got cheating on him? This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Was so close to call out to my h and ask, but then my little girl started to take off. He has no ideas, no desire to do simple fun or actively engage with me on anything. I couldnt say it better EG. Yes! It can only be inspired. Just wanted to let you know I understand what youre going through, youre not alone! Tell them, openly and honestly, how important travel is to you. Our social lives can revolve a bit too much THROUGH our kids. SHOW NOTES To see pictures of Stacy on some of his many climbing . Doug, I have often thought about why I dragged my feet too. Your email address will not be published. They just werent invested, and I believe it has to do with how they felt about themselves at the time. I should have kicked her out immediately and filed for divorce. Sometimes I feel like we divorced while staying married. All he ever wants to do is sit on the couch and watch TV. Rachel, I am so sad that this is the path you have been forced to walk. Of course, this isnt to say that you should never come first. I saw something somewhere that research indicates that 65% or more of extramarital affairs can be directly attributed to boredom. Im totally fascinated by what people have to say about infidelity and its helpful in challenging myself about what I think. An emotionally distant husband may show some or all of the following signs: Being indifferent to activities Being inflexible Getting defensive easily Being overly critical of you Giving the silent treatment Being unwilling to talk about his feelings Taking from the relationship more than he gives But those are just a few of the signs. The responsibility for what you did is totally on YOU, no one else. I ask because I feel exactly the same way as you. This is a really great article! Here are 15 signs of an unhappily married man. Travelling alone is a whole new experience and in my experience, you meet people wherever you go. We have two very young kids and both work high-pressure, full-time jobs. I have complete clarity on this issue in my mind. Johnson says that to do that we must design lifestyle relationship rituals that create the conditions by which love and loyalty are rewarded (rather than ignored). Things have evened out quite a bit and we have some nice little teamwork going on. Agreed. My husband doesn t want to spend time with me, is it true? I feel trapped and I dont want to live life separately from him, but I really have no choice but to move on and do things on my own. This could be an emotional affair or a physical one. She will never understand the pain she caused me and our children. You don't get a free pass. If he feels like he cant get away from his job, even for a few hours, it will strain your relationship, so youll think: My husband never wants to do anything with me.. I basically told him I understand how shamed and guilty that all made him feel, but he has done the crime and this discussion WILL come up from time to time. The term refers to being "dependent" on another person and putting their needs before your own by engaging in people-pleasing behavior and caregiving. First, try to be more positive when youre around him. He's Totally Stopped Texting You Back. They were also agitated, aggravated and fed up. Ugh. 6. Often, men show their love through acts of service instead of words. Something along the lines of, well if he was happy he wouldnt be with me. In other words, I'm a good person! Big surprise. I think my summer project is going to be to read all of the blog posts and comments from the beginning. Keep your chin up girl, we are all rooting for you! More lies to manipulate him, each time something would backfire. First, try taking a more proactive approach by planning fun activities that you can do together. Your email address will not be published. In 2006, he experienced his very first bout of acute pancreatitis, which was determined to have been caused by extremely elevated triglycerides. No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. I tried to strike a balance and move the conversation in a different direction. Ohh and the funny thing is, she wasnt on anything for depression. They are selfishly seeking attention, with NO intention of giving up their real relationship. My husband doesnt try to do ANYTHING. No, no one wins we just keeping moving forward. The cheating spouse still seems to be calling the shots. Wow I have been coming here for years. They were bored. This includes the time during and for months after, the affair. Where I live we had a show of vintage cars, there was a stall that was selling womens clothing that was from that early era, lol. What a shame eg, they are not going to see it. Communication is just not you expressing your issues and him just agreeing. What I thought would come back to me at some point (like a true relational marriage), is no longer my dream. For years, the six of us and all of our kids would go camping and do other stuff together several times a year. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Yeah I know..not productive, LOL. After my husband and I boarded the plane, I began my ritual of praying . You have your sons hearts, love, support, and respect. I encourage you to ask me for clarification, if you are not clear with my Answer. I loved snowboarding, my friends, my dogs, and of course, travel. He's in good form from the minute he wakes up (unlike me). Take care. On my birthday . Either way, its essential to discuss whats going on and how its impacting your relationship. If anyone condones cheating, or blames one of the affair partners or a spouse, you just have to wonder WHY. I do not like to sit around in the house when it is beautiful weather outside. I totally believe until you honestly think that both affair partners are equally responsible for the affair, under any circumstances,no matter what reasonsthey give, no matter who they are, yourself or others, it is being defensive. You never know, once your husband sees what a great time you are having. While you may feel like youre being neglected, its important to remember that this period wont last forever. Problems arise when you leave the house early, barely speaking to or connecting with your wife before you dash out the door. Doug, I know you were joking but knowing Linda and what you guys have learned through hard experience, I am willing to bet she did very, very little husband bashing. It's always healthy for the dad to bond with baby, have skin time, even if the baby is fussy. I however am back to working full time at our business since he practically decimated it with his affair partner working there so I dont have much time or inclination to be the perfect homemaker he used to be married to. This commitment keeps me here but I dont know what kind of godly marriage this is, when he contributes no energy or time to it. FCOL, it makes TOTAL sense. Ignore builds a wall between you and your spouse. In answer to. If this is a recent development, you may be wondering what went wrong and how to fix it. Besides, Im a fun person and I do like to do sh*t! These images sum it up perfectly. He goes to bed whenever he wants and gets up whenever he wants. This means monogamy cannot be forced. Also, the 21st birthday of my oldest son. Its his wifes fault for not meeting her husbands needs. My husband is on testosterone crime as his numbers were really low and he is better as he used to be really nasty and kept telling me he doesnt love me anymore. And if your husband has told you outright that hes no longer attracted to you, its time for a serious conversation. Plus, he flatly turned down my request that he get counseling or even that WE get counseling. I too am a fun person, and we dont do shi* b/c other half is content doing nothing. He has friends, hobbies, and other commitments that compete for his time. Exercise Grace, I totally agree. Rafting, kayaking, swimming, water parks, cool restaurants No museums, tours, etc.-- you know, old-fogey . You can also look for ways to connect during the day, like taking a walk together or sharing a coffee break. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban. I have to agree. Cuz if he doesn't communicate whatsoever, you're really just communicating with yourself. My h was telling me on the weekend how his mistress told him, if I didnt want my children, how she would be so happy to raise them with him. the list goes on and on and on. I want him to do SOMETHING, but hes happy with being on his laptop or watching the depressing news all day long. You endured much more than most would be able to. 20/04/2015 at 11:50 am. Yes I did everything to make his life comfortable not so much now. This is not what God intended for marriageat all. She is also a very nasty person and looking like Miss America couldnt compensate for her internal self. And he needs to answer those questions. Take time to let the responses settle in, and strive not to be defensive," she says. I agree that, for me, its my commitment to God, first and foremost. My husband never wants to go out and do things. I know the signs now, I know his tells when something is up. Thank you, EG! He needs to stop using his depression as an excuse for not putting effort in this relationship and if it's this bad he needs to get it under control and start on medication or start seeing someone. We can only imagine how his own eyes and mind were deceiving him. f. I can and will choose PEACE for my life. People value what they invest in as opposed to what they are not invested in.. His apathy is excruciating and I feel myself just shriveling up and blowing away in the wind. Most of the Time My Husband Doesn't Want to do Sh*t 67 by Linda and Doug Those were the words that one of our friends told Linda recently Saturday night we met up with two other couples who we consider to be some of our closest friends. Now, us men stood there and talked about the normal stuffsports, work, kids and yes, one of the other guys did do just a little wife-bashing. I do everything outside the home with friends, nothing with him. IMHO. Good advise eg. 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